When you first meet someone, what do you say about yourself?

When you first meet someone, what are the things you need to say about yourself? Those are your ego identies...

We all have identities. They are our STORY. Why do we need a story? To explain who we are, where we have been and where we intend to go...

Since our story has built up incrementally over the course of our lives it can be difficult to boil it down to the basics. Some of it is simply reference material, but the parts we treasure most are the ones that stroke our Ego and make us special! You might have gotten 13 out of 15 spelling words correct on a test during the first week of October in fifth grade, but your Ego probably doesn't get enough juice revealing that...

Your Ego gets the most boost when first meeting people, so that is when your Ego indentities are revealed. Think about what you say about yourself; "I have been diagnosed with ADHD" "I had an abusive childhood" "I'm a born again Christian" "I'm a recovering drug/alcoholic".... These "stories" are telling people how you want them to relate to you. Your Ego needs to be special and would prefer to make you seem special for positive reasons, but negative ones work just as well. SPECIAL is what counts!

Observe what you begin to tell people to make yourself special today and try to find a substitute that makes them special, that connects you...

Duffy