I was recently texted by a friend, "If everything is as it's supposed to be, why am I alone? I don't want to be. So, why is my being alone the way it's supposed to be? Am I not deserving?"
There is no deserving or not deserving. Nobody deserves anything, no matter what they do. There is no law of fairness or unfairness. There is only WHAT IS. That's it. Now, if your view of life is one where you aren't getting what perceive you should be, then that is what you will experience, a life where you aren't getting what you should be. If you think you aren't getting what you deserve, then your experience will continue to appear to be so. It is your thinking that is causing this, not WHAT IS. Your reality is created by your thoughts. Simply changing your thinking, changing your expectations to ones where nobody deserves anything, will remove all of the suffering you experience from not getting what you think you deserve. It's that simple. When you walk outside your door and step on a swarm of ants, did the ants deserve to be killed? When lightning sparks a forest fire, do the trees deserve to die? If a woman can't have children does she deserve this? No. And if you happen to be alone it simply is what is...
What choices do we have about "WHAT IS?" The only choice available is how we think about things. If you focus on what you are wanting, and your thoughts are thoughts of wanting, then you will attract more of that, more wanting. Your life will be one where most of your time is spent from a place of dissatisfaction. Alternately if you change your thinking and BEgin to focus on what you are grateful for, you will attract more of that, and you will experience a life where gratitude, thankfulness and happiness will dominate.
Now I know some out there will say this is a bunch of New Age crap, but seriously, take all of the attraction stuff out and tell me that spending 80% of your time focusing on positive stuff versus 80% on negative stuff isn't going to make your life seem better? It comes down to subjective reality. YOUR reality is only in your own head. All that you experience comes through you (your five senses) to your brain, which mixes in your biases, opinions, attitudes and experiences, and out pops YOUR take on things. Pull the plug on your brain and NONE of that exists. Simply change your thinking and you will change your life. Have you ever seen how a near death experience can completely change a person's attitude? Or, have you ever witnessed how positive someone becomes when they have beaten an addiction? They have changed their thoughts, and their lives have changed as well. Their experience becomes one of gratitude, opportunities and contentment.
Today, when you see yourself start to ask why you don't have something, switch over to something you HAVE. Think of how awesome it is that you do! Everytime you begin to wallow in self-pity, pull yourself up to the awareness that it is only you that feels as you do. Simply imagine how God sees everything and you will see how fortunate you are to simply live, breathe, to BE...
Duffy
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