Monday, October 3, 2011

When you attempt to control others, you limit your possibilities...

When you attempt to control others, you keep them from surpassing YOUR abilities. You prevent them from creating something outside of YOUR imagination, and thus you limit YOUR possilbilities...

When you LOVE life, you know to allow and accept that whatever happens will be fine and normal. When you LOVE others you trust them. You give them the opportunity to be the best thay can be, to shine. When you do this they will surprise you, and you will be happy you did.

We have all been exposed to control freaks, bosses, parents, and friends, who can't seem to be happy letting you do and develop on your own. They constantly carp on your performance. They hover and smother, trying to force your round peg into THEIR square hole... Not only is this tiresome, but it is truly unproductive.

How often have you worked side by side with someone, sometimes for years, and then after being invited to their home for the first time, you are exposed to something they do or can do, that completely shatters the narrow-minded view you had of them? "I knew you played guitar, but I didn't think you played like that!" "I heard you did oil paintings, but these should be in a museum, they are awesome!" "You built that? All by yourself!" We box people in, in our minds, limiting what they can do, until suddenly, when our eyes are opened we are shaken, and we come to realize on some level at least, that by limiting them in our minds, we really put limits on ourselves, on our own imaginations.

God is ALL things. And so, all people are God. God is not limited, and neither are they. They are capable of amazing things, when you trust them to offer their best. We had a little celebration recently. People came from four states. Everyone was on a different schedule, wave-length and time frame. Now I could have decided to "guide" everyone with a firm hand and micro-managed every step of the way. By doing that I would have guaranteed that things got done MY way, and to the degree I could force my will on them, I would have been satisfied with the outcome. Instead I decided I would simply express how grateful I was for each one, and how thankful I was for their contribution. Some people cooked, some decorated, some served, some cleaned, some wrapped, some photographed, some helped greet and host, some took care of the music, some took care of the slide-show... Everyone knew what they were capable of, and was encouraged to find just the place they could add value and impact the whole, in their best and most persoanl way. Well, the whole thing went far better than anything "I" could have imagined! And it was all done and received with LOVE, no stress, no FEAR...

Today, give in to the Universe. Opt for allowing. Choose acceptance. Decide that those around you can accomplish great things, all on their own. Let go and let God, for when you CONROL everyone, you prevent them from creating something outside of YOUR imagination, and thus you limit YOUR possibilities...

Duffy

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