Choose to love "What is" and you will love life...

Choose to love "What is" and you will love life...

Whether you have actually ever gotten married or not you have probably heard traditional marriage vows enough times to be able to repeat them by rote "...for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and health, to love and cherish, to death do us part..."

Imagine now that you adopted that attitude towards LIFE... Life is actually your real partner. Think about that... You could get married and divorced 5 times, more even, or never marry at all but life would still be your partner all the way along. Your family may be the strongest unit you can imagine, but one by one they leave you... Life never does.

From the day of your birth until your final day as you are presently manifested, "What is" is your constant and most dependable companion. It will never abandon you or leave your side even for a moment. Most of us take this loyalty completely for granted, so much so that we gripe and moan constantly. "Life sucks and then you die."

Love is a choice. If you choose to Love "What is," no matter what it is, you will Love life. You've heard people say, "I'm lovin' life right now!" Shouldn't we all be saying that, all the time?

When someone asks you, "How's your love life?" Shouldn't your answer be really be about your love of life, your love affair with LIFE? This journey, this brightly lit movie that you get to experience everyday, that is constantly changing, with no editing mistakes, no holes, and never once gives away the ending, this life that is constructed in such an awesome fashion that if you look for the positive it is ALWAYS there to be seen and so too that there is plenty of negative if that's your taste! How could you possibly choose to give this life anything but five stars!

Today, when you feel any inkling of negativity towards life, consider the alternative, give yourself a "dope slap" and smile, 'cuz you know this life is the best!

Duffy

You could be feeling the bliss of snowflakes on your tongue, at this moment...

You could be feeling the bliss of snowflakes on your tongue, at this moment, if you'd simply stop labelling what is happening NOW as less...

What is the difference between the bliss of laughter, puppies, new babies, catching snowflakes on your tongue and "lesser" experiences?

Your label of "lesser"...

You have decided that some experinces are lesser than others. In fact you have a whole hierarchy of "lesser" ratings. Each of us has our own unique list, but commonly most events are looked on as, mildly annoying, irritating, downright irritating, "You're pissing me off!" and intolerable.

What is even worse is that these classifications don't begin somewhere in the middle of life's events, where an equal number of experiences are in the "good" half and "lesser" ones in the second half,  but strangely YOU call everything south of "unbelieveable," as in a gorgeous sunset, "lesser!"

In truth, YOU are not giving yourself much room for happiness. Almost everything falls on the "lesser" side of your ledger... Seriously, is it any wonder that you're constantly having "lesser" experiences, plagued with living a "lesser" life?

The solution is to begin to look at all of life as normal and fine, perfect in its design. In doing this the natural bliss of living starts to show itself everywhere, since YOU are no longer blocking it with labels and judgements. How cool is that! Stop calling some things "not as good" and they become AS good! The bliss of living is everywhere. Ask someone who just escaped a near death experience and they see bliss in all things, they'd be happy watching paint dry...

Today, when you see yourself in a "lesser" place recognize that it is only YOU that is encountering something "lesser"...

Duffy

There are no coincidences. They are messages BEing sent to you...

There are no coincidences. They are messages BEing sent to you from the Universe to help guide you. Notice them. Read them. Live them. BE them..

You walk into a seminar, or a meeting, or the mall, or a bar, and you run in to someone you went to school with 10, 20, 40 years ago. "Wow!" you say, "What a coincidence!"

It is not a coincidence. It is not random... It is ordained. The Universe/God/Tao has put you in contact... Because you each have a message for the other. It may not be easy to dicipher what their message to you is, but there is one. The messenger may actually have reached out to you after a period of being out of contact...same thing, they have a message for you.

Let's suppose this person is a former girlfriend/boyfriend, one you have secretly pined away for, years after having lost touch! What might your message BE? It might BE an answer to your prayers (Law of Attraction). It might be a message to you that you have grown enough to have a successful relationship with this person now. Perhaps it is an opportunity for you to compare and see how much better the relationship is that you are now in with another...and that it is time to let all that go...

A former friend/coworker bumps into you. Amazingly they have recently started a new business that is closely related with yours! What's your message? That you should consider broadening your business to include this person and their expertise? Does this person have information about your business (from the outside) that in critical to your success? Maybe it's a sign that your industry is getting too crowded and you should start to branch out/get out...

Sometimes what appears coincidental is small, and hardly noticable as such. A new client calls for a repair and it turns out they are an avid guitarist and YOU ARE TOO! The Tao has put you together, the Universe has caused what could be labeled as serendipity, but is actually synchronicity, to happen! God is saying, "Focus here..." You've heard of wild animals abandoning an area shortly before a fire, or an earthquake? They're paying attention to and taking their "coincidences" seriously...

Whether these and similar events come to you as a whisper or hit you aside the head, they are to be heeded. The more you begin to notice them the more you will see them as significant memos/bulletins/missives/aids to you. Read them. Dicipher them. Follow them, BE them.

Today BE on the outlook for anything that seems coincidental, and take a moment to reflect on it and regard its true value to you... Your life or life as you desire it may depend on your attention and discernment...

Duffy

You can't fill a cup that is already full. If you want a new life you must empty your cup first...

You can't fill a cup that is already full. If you want a new life you must empty your cup first...

Most people are so stuck on their beliefs that they appear frozen in time, as if a time capsule of them and their life was buried years ago...

To the ancient Greeks beliefs were a process, as in believing. They worshipped in a way that celebrated the process of believing, and not one of righteous absolutes as so many do today. The rituals of worship were a giving up of oneself to what may come versus telling others what is true in no uncertain terms.

Where does this leave us? For most people, the rules and regs they learned/absorbed/adopted at some earlier (read less experienced) time in their lives (generally in childhood before they actually had the opportunity to examine things with their adult mind) have become rigid parameters completely confining their thinking. They are not able to or have become unwilling to see anything outside their box because of this. This is what is meant by a full cup...

Alas...they are experiencing unhappiness, misery, worry and FEAR...

If you want to change your life you MUST change your thinking. There is no other way. So, in essence you must empty your cup. This is no easy task, as you must address each one of your (rigid) beliefs as they come up, and open your mind to different possibilities, different labels.

Suppose you are an ardent opponent of abortion for example. Then your own daughter gets raped and impregnated. You just might change your views when it gets personal. I use this particular example only because people generally have a completely closed opinion on this subject, and also because maintaining this adamant, inflexible position could lead to a great deal of unhappiness for those involved.

Emptying your cup shows up in a myriad of unexpected ways. You must adopt a Conscious attitude, freely observing each stimulus as it arises and then adopting what expresses WHO YOU ARE NOW...in relation to it...

Today, observe yourself. Watch how often you reflexively react to events and attitudes and of the unhappy/angry/fearful emotions that accompany your attitudes. If you want to experience happiness, you just might have to empty your cup...

Duffy

The more your Unconscious Ego rules you, the more you will only see the Unconcsious Ego in others...

The more your Unconscious Ego rules you, the more you will only see the Unconcsious Ego in others. Seeing their faults strengthens your Ego.

Is Unconscious Ego the most destructive force on the planet? It's right up there on the list. It is probably ruining your own life as well as harming those around you...

In order to understand Unconscious Ego we must first visit unconscious thought. Unconscious thought is when you fully identify your thoughts as YOU, the real you. In reality the thinking mind is simply a tool on your tool belt, one that is great for solving problems, but it is not you. It should be returned to the tool belt when the problem is solved. The true YOU is the BEing BEhind your thinking mind. Most people are so overwhelmed by the cacophany of voices and thoughts in their heads, that they have lost sight of their true self, and have abdicated THEMSELVES to the thinking mind, which by the way is largely conditioned and habitual, playing the same loops over and over. Thoughts like; "You are not good enough," "You're a quitter," "You don't measure up," keep playing and playing and playing... You cannot see the bottom when the water is constantly stirred up...

The Ego is the part of you that doesn't recognize your connection to the Universe. It is always seeking ways to promote itself as separate and thus superior to others. It is strengthened by anything that reinforces its specialness, its uniqueness. It is threatened by anything that increases connection; sharing, consensus, accord or UNITY...

When we combine these two forces we have people who are unable to stop their quest to draw attention to themselves, and their superiority... Imagine these people in positions of power!

The Unconscious Egoist is fully engaged in fault finding, because seeing the faults in others strengthens the Ego. The strengthened Ego feeds on others' faults, and since the YOU that identifies with the thinking mind has no control over your thoughts, this sick cycle repeats...

Have you ever known someone who is always knocking others down as a way of making themselves look better? Unconscious Ego. "He/she is so low-class!" Unconscious Ego. "He's a fag." "She's an airhead." "He's an ass-kisser." "She's clueless!" The Unconscious Ego, striking again and again...

The only step required to end this is to BEcome CONSCIOUS. The moment you BEcome AWARE that there is a BEing, your true self, BEhind your thoughts, when you BEcome the OBSERVER of the thoughts, you BEgin to take control of them. You'll start to notice that they are just thoughts. Once you get in the practice of observing, you will notice how many destructive and Egoic thoughts you're having.

After you put the thinking mind back in the belt, you will BEcome present and you will BE amazed at how easy and nice the flow of living is when uninterrupted by the endless thoughts. You will BEcome pro-active and stop being reactive. Your "reactive" will BEcome "creative." Your life will no longer be dependent on external events. Obstacles will go from being impasses to passing...

Today, try to observe yourself when you engage in conversation. Simply seeing yourself react will be enough. Once awareness BEgins there is no going back...

Duffy

God doesn't demand anything...God allows...

God doesn't demand anything... God allows...

The rules of the Universe have been in place for eons. Our understanding of them is still a growing thing. Newtonian Physics have given way to Quantum Physics. Things change. Attitudes change. Much of what we used to think of as "wrong" is now "right," and what we used to think of as "right" we now see as "wrong."

Many people don't want to believe it when Quantum Physics states that a particle can be in two places at once, they want to hang on to what makes them feel comfortable. But the Universe is not going to rewrite the rules simply because you are more comfortable with an earlier understanding. The world was once flat, and the Sun revolved around the Earth...

Today we have to face the same attitudes. People are told something is true when they are children, brain-washed in a fashion, and then refuse to change their thinking as adults even when faced with overwhelming evidence to the contrary! Cognitive Dissonance is alive and well...

The problem is when these people try to make everyone else believe as they do; through influence, coercion and even death (what do think Wars are?)

From God's perspective everyone is right about their views. God doesn't demand allegiance to a particular view. God allows us the freedom to change as we grow, and grow we will. You may take your personal views to the grave, but you cannot force someone else to think differently than they do. Their thoughts represent who they are. They will change their thinking when and only when those thoughts no longer embody their personal mindset. Then their thoughts about what is right will change. Their new thoughts will depict their updated context; WHO THEY ARE NOW...

Today, when you come across an idea that seems outmoded or ignorant or insensitive or wrong-headed, remember that God allows us each to believe what we want as long as we want until we decide these thoughts are no longer "us."

Duffy

We are as but a drop of spray off a breaking wave, for the moment appearing separate...

We are as but a drop of spray off a breaking wave, for the moment appearing separate, but we fall back as part of the whole vast ocean...

Imagine a cartoon where a drop of spray sought, indeed demanded to be recognized as superior to all other drops. This drop constantly looked for opportunities to draw attention to its specialness, its uniqueness... Pretty ridiculous huh?

Just as the drop falls back into the ocean and returns to what it always was, we will all return to the Earth (the Universe). None of us are special or unique. Those qualities, which we falsely attribute to individuals, are qualities of the Universe BEing manifested briefly through you and I. We don't possess them any more than a chisel possesses the ability to sculpt. We are instruments of the ALL...

The greatest quality the Universe experiences through you and I is Consciousness. We have been selected as the tool through which the Universal Consciousness can evolve. This evolution happens when we become AWARE, when we wake up. Awareness is made manifest through conscious thought, LOVE, compassion, kindness, acceptance, allowing, connection with ALL, BEing one with the ONE...

Unconscious thoughts, FEAR, hatred, guilt, shame, apathy, pride also add to the Universal Consciousness, albeit negatively. Any thoughts/attempts at separateness/superiority are the "drop" thinking it is something precious, special. The Universe allows this knowing that evolution will eventually go forward, as it must...

Your choice is to be a part of the Universe, or apart from the Universe. You will in either case fall back into the vast Ocean. None of the things you think you are, or that you think you own will make the journey back. The Universe will simply give another "drop" the chance to move the evolution of Consciousness forward. It is the WAY of things...

Today, will you BE manifesting the WAY, or will you be pulling away....

Duffy